Find me here instead. — Hey you, Dana here. I’m leaving a note to say I’ve paused writing on Medium for now and likely forever. Medium can be a great place! Also, for various reasons, it was no longer a fit. I write about that some (and sobriety from mindless web time, social media, and…

Note: I’m reworking material on addiction…merging into a chapter on gender and sexuality. Find Part 1 of this latest thread here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here. A week after being dumped by the first woman I ever dated, I resumed an on-again, off-again, ridiculously fucked-up relationship with an ex-boyfriend…

But first, I have more to say about labels. — Note: I’m reworking material on addiction…merging into a chapter on gender and sexuality. Find Part 1 of this latest thread here and Part 2 here. Since coming out more than two decades ago, my relationship with labels is the same as my relationship with jeans: Too tight in places; falling…

Girls, boys, bodies — Note: I’m reworking material on addiction…merging into a chapter on gender and sexuality. Find Part 1 here. Life never stays still. When it does, fully and finally — when we reach our ultimate conclusion — we call this death. Meanwhile, we move. Meanwhile, we weave self and story. But neither…

Also, Medium updates and “new rules” — When I hired the talented, kind, gracious Brian Limoyo to take pictures for my brand and business this month, he had his work cut out for him. For one, I have a major aversion to getting my picture taken — a story wrapped up in anorexia recovery and ongoing body…

“People confuse their identity constructs with the Self, and then they misunderstand the construct of the Self as though it is fixed, or constant. As though I declare myself this one thing, and so I am always this one thing, and I will always be this one thing, and that…

Eating disorders, religion, and polarization in small town America — If you’re new to my writings, you might want to start here, for slightly more context. This post is a continuation of a chapter in progress. And so, for as much as I loved Jeff Number 2, his God came between us. Not at first, when newly in love and…

Haters, anorexia, religion & high school — Things are stirring these weeks. Under the surface still. As yet, unclear. I’m neck deep in reworking a chapter on addiction in general and anorexia in particular. I’m neck deep in questioning what the fuck I’m doing with my life. I mentioned last week that this place of writing happened…

It IS a close cousin of overwork, perfectionism, anxiety, and OCD. — In considering addiction — in considering our society of addicts — there is a line. On one side, addiction gets rewarded. On one side, the addict is the favourite daughter, the star student, the obvious success. On the other side of that line is shame. On the other side is…